Some hate it, some love it.
Some wait for it, some avoid it, some use it as an excuse to make up for the relationship that they don't have by shopping and spoiling themselves. (ladies you know... lol)
I have to say I love love. I'm a hopeless romantic at heart. I love the idea of getting flowers. I love when someone thinks of me by even just taking time out to say hi or send a note. I love to receive love this way!
Last night I took my girls, Tae (10) and Rae (6mo) out for a Valentines dinner. A day early to beat the crowds. I let Tae order from the adult menu (her fav thing to do! lol) and we had a simple meal. We bought her some valentine cards for her class the next day and came home. Rae was giving her 6mo death grip hugs (they tend to hurt lol) out and was all smiles. I was tired (single working moms I know you understand) but it was a nice simple evening.
This morning I took Tae to school. Normally she walks but I wanted to get her a heart shaped donut and a hot chocolate today.
I dropped Rae off at daycare and came into work. Tell me why my heart was kind of heavy?? I had prayed this morning and read my devotionals but I was longing for something... what?
So I did some self analyzing and I went back to what I told Tae.
I know that God doesn't love me just on a holiday or when he blesses me with something. Be it a new job, friends, entertainment, blessings of any sort. But each day when I go to sleep when I am awake, when I'm busy or when I'm alone and still.... God is loving me.
See, I won't get a valentine card from my dad because I don't know him. I won't get a valentine anything from any man (well my older brother might send a text ;p) because I don't have any man in my life like that. I started to look at the male relationships in my life. The failures, the short comings, the lack. Truth is, I know I'm not the only one!
I could let my emotions run away as to why its not fair for me! I can dig into understanding why other people I know have good male figures in their life but I don't. Why they are dating or married and I'm not.... even typing that makes me giggle at myself. WHAT FOR??!!
I not only like to receive love but I like to give it. And I have today. I try to every day. (I believe in the Love rEVOLution!) So it is an escape for me to give then to focus on what I'm not getting. But to take it one step further....
Why do flower deliveries provoke a sense of jealousy in us when it isn't us? I think one reason it is nice to get it is because we not only know we are loved but other people see we are loved. So when others go on their dates we see that the seat next to us is empty... and this holiday full of pink and red hues turns into a GREEN EYED MONSTER
We get jealous because of a lack of security within ourselves. Yes we have heard it one million times-insecurities! But let us be real... when you are alone is there an aching void? that relationship that just ended- has it robbed you of your peace? That father who abused your or was never there- does that still hurt?
THE TRUTH- you are suppose to have an abundant and enjoyable life! But How??
First of all the one thing I find people don't like to deal with when they are facing confronting themselves is forgiveness. Normally I'd save this step for later but why not be bold?
Forgiveness is for you. Not the just the other person.
I can recall some of my best memories is when I look back at the boyfriend who did me wrong and it doesn't bother me anymore. Forgiveness. I literally prayed one day (and probably several times after that) and I said, "I forgive him." I didn't call him up and say, "God said I need to forgive you so I can move on!" Nope. I did it in the quiet of my own home. I was tired of that emotional torment! Don't you know that thing will eventually leave you alone! You will be free from feeling so distraught and hopeless.
So FORGIVE! Yup. Even though you think you don't want too. Find it in your heart and let it go. Give it to God.
Next....
Fill the void. One thing that is helping me and is something I am in process of is surrounding myself with the knowledge and reality of how much God loves me. I hear it all the time. I even tell others. But I want to experience it on a new level. So in my packed schedule and hands full life I read a quick devotional about God's love for me. I find scriptures about his love for me. I post things in my office and in my home. I pray about being submerged in God's love for me. Show it to me, God!
REALITY.... That void from your father or that ex is actually where they failed to love you like God does! Since that is the case, who better to fill it but Him. You will have to let go of your hurt. But God is so excited to have time with you and bless your socks off just by being his child! Let Him LOVE on you like He wants too.
Come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.... our performance will never be perfect, but a perfect heart is one that wants to do good and wills to do good.. God is proud of you and accepts you as is. Matter of fact, He has the plan to help you get an even better life!
By this time next year you will find that you aren't jealous over the flowers your neighbor got. Or the fact that you don't have anyone swooning you with gifts. But instead you will find ways that you can show someone love... I found out love gives first and I know I have love when I find myself giving it. (And who knows... because you became so friendly you may find a plethora of sisterly-love gifts showing up just to bless you.) Glory to God!
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